If you are untruthful with your spouse, you are breaking the mainly basic of your vows. You are telling them, as well as yourself, that your expression is no good, and that you can’t be believed. The new person is getting your partner’s bits and pieces, and you are trying to separate your resources among two people who honestly deserve your whole interest and not being a cheating spouse.

If you are running around on your spouse, or even thinking about doing it, please bring it to an end. I can’t assure you that you will find contentment ever after if you take this suggestion, but I can swear you that you will make healthier choices if you have adequate self respect not to be a sneak.